He was my closest friend. We were of the
same age. Whenever there was a problem, we would discuss it together and find a
solution. He was me and I was him. There was nothing that I could keep away
from him. We were very close to one another and always longed to see each
other.
One day, I found him deeply engrossed in
thoughts. I woke him up from his thoughts and enquired what exactly was he so
deeply thinking about.
“It is something which I should not be
bothering about right now. But I will have to, later.”, he replied.
“Speak out clearly to me man. To whom else
can you confide your mind?”, I prompted.
“That is true. It is about my marriage
that I was thinking about”, he said.
“Last week only you said that you
completed 25 years. Still there are many years ahead for it. Why do you think
about it now?”, I queried.
“Marriage would always be an expensive
affair. Unless one plans in advance, he won’t have the money for it”, he
explained.
“No man, your parents would think of it
and take care of it. You need not bother much about it now”, I tried to pacify
him.
“No dear. My parents are quite unlikely to
think of it in the near future. Our house construction itself is only half
done. Their priority would be to complete it first”, he pointed out.
“That is natural. Let it be completed and
then only they can think about the marriage of their children. By the way, how
many brothers and sisters you have?”, I asked.
“Only one sister, but she had been married
off long back when we were staying in our ancestral home”, he replied.
“And what about your brothers?”, I
enquired.
“Elder one is employed and he is already
pressing my parents for his marriage. The younger one is still studying”, he
answered.
“That means you have one more waiting
above you. So, let the house construction be over and then let his marriage
also be over. Then only your parents can think about yours”, I explained.
“But my elder brother says that he has
already attained the age for marriage and has with him the money also to meet
the expense for it. He doesn’t want to wait till the completion of the house
construction. All that he wanted from parents is that they should co-operate
and conduct his marriage for him”, he said.
“But when would be the house construction
completed? Should it not be done first?” I asked.
“That is true. But there is a point in
what he says. If he is to wait for the construction to be over, his age would
run much forward and he would miss his prime youth before his marriage. In
fact, he seems to me very logical and practical”, he justified his brother.
“Sure. But what did your parents say for
that?”, I queried.
“They had to agree. That is their duty.
House construction may take years”, he quipped.
“But he needs a room to stay with his
wife”, I pointed out.
“He had taken care of that. Construction
of one room is already completed. He says that he can use that room”, he said.
“He is not only logical and practical, but
clever too”, I remarked.
“I do not want to lag behind. I feel that
I should also think on that line”, he said.
“What do you mean?”, I questioned him
suspiciously.
“If I also save money for my marriage and
put forward the same argument, my parents would not be in a position to
refuse”, he explained.
“But what about completing the house
construction man?”, I asked.
“That can wait. Marriages should be in
time, you see. Age won’t wait.”, He reasoned.
“But, have you saved for your marriage?
You had been sending all the left out balance to your home so far”, I asked.
“That is what I had been thinking on. I
think I should stop sending money and save it for my own marriage”, he declared
his thoughts.
“Good idea. But where will you sleep with
your wife, if you do not have another room constructed in your unfinished
home?”, I asked.
“I have to sleep somewhere any way and my
wife can also sleep by my side. It is not important to have a room. After all,
I would be in home only for a few days, while on leave”, he replied.
Later, he said that his brother’s marriage
had been fixed and that he was going on leave to attend it.
*
* * * *
When he came back from leave, he said that
his brother’s marriage function went off well.
“When are you going to have yours?”, I
asked.
“I had already suggested to my parents
that I would also like to get married during my next year leave”, he replied.
“And what did your parents say?”, I asked.
“They put to me the same question you
asked, that where would I sleep with my wife. And I gave them the same reply I
gave you”, he said.
“And did they agree?” I asked.
“Not yet. But they will have to, because
they can’t show disparity between the sons”, he explained.
“And what does your brother say”, I asked.
“He is already thinking of building a home
for him and his wife. He is no more concerned about anything else”, he replied.
“Then what about your house
construction?”, I asked.
“Yes. I would also think of constructing a
home for me and my wife. But, let my marriage be over first”, he replied.
“Not that. I am asking about the
construction of the home you are staying now.”, I corrected him.
“That is my parent’s home. They should
have planned it well before and built it. They should not just pass over their
burdens and responsibilities on our shoulders. If we take up all that, our
children would also meet the same fate as us”, he justified.
*
* * * *
He got married as he planned.
When he returned after the marriage, I
asked him how his wife was.
“She is a true friend, indeed. But you are
always my best friend”, he conceded.
“But, why?”, I asked.
“Because you are me and I am you”, he
replied cheerfully. Laughing heartily, I turned away from my room mirror and
walked out.
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